"After years of mistakes and pain and problems, real love is two people standing together, choosing to be together, despite all that has gone wrong." by shonda rhimes on http://www.greyswriters.com/.
While browsing the POEA forum on Overseas Employment Social issues, particularly the thread Family Abandonment: Your Opinion", I can't help but think about this particular phrase.
A lot have been arguing that it is loneliness that drives them to engage in extra marital affairs, some blames it on the way the family here in the Philippines spends the hard earned money sent to them. Either way, both are faulty and at the same time, not.
A lot could be attributed on how a particular marriage ends. But one common denominator that I could think of is the lack of commitment. When you are committed to loving that person "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, 'til death do you part", and mean it, it would not be too difficult to withstand any storm that may struck the marriage. No matter how difficult life seems to be, or how far the distance between you and your loved ones is, the relationship will always work. It is just a matter of choosing, deciding, committing to stay together, to stay married and to stay in love.
Isn't that being idealistic? I am. But I have had my share of bad times too. But amidst all the problems we had, we stayed together and we stayed in love with each other.
Family Abandonment: Your Opinion?
My opinion? Commit.
If all of those who posted a reply on that thread will choose, decide and commit, the statistics would change.
And they would make a difference.
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Fair point. This is what love is--commitment. It's not an occasional feel-good, hanging-out bit of nothing. It's the time and effort of caring that makes love what it is.
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